I want to get back into making friends again,after being something of a loner for over 10 years.Any advice?

Basically to make friends, you have to go out and meet people - join any groups and/or organizations that have activities and events that you are really interested in.





Then when you are in an environment, where you are with people who enjoy the same things as you do, friendship will happen naturally as you talk and are involved together with the same activity and event.





I think it's best when it's a group that meets frequently for the same purpose or activity rather than just one-time events. That way people get to know each other and conversation just develops based on having similar interests.





Good luck!I want to get back into making friends again,after being something of a loner for over 10 years.Any advice?
Yeah! That's happened to me too, I totally withdrew for a couple of years and am now just starting to come out again. I have joined Facebook and reconnected with some friends and basically just be open and receptive to the people around you. I haven't changed anything dramatically in my everyday life but I have opened my attitude so that if any good offers come along I could accept them and take things from there. I want to get back into making friends again,after being something of a loner for over 10 years.Any advice?
In order to make friends, you need to put yourself in situations to meet people. I don't know your age or interests so I'll just make some general suggestions to meet people:





Take a class at your local community college (a fun class)


Join a gym


Become a volunteer


Charity work in your community


Join the PTA (if you have kids)


Get a part time job on weekends doing something fun


Join a book club


Get a dog (walking your dog is a great way to meet people)


Join a political organization


Do you sing? Go to clubs or local bars on Karaoke night.


Join a local drama club


Become a tutor at your library


Join a church group


Sign up for a marathon


Become a coach for your community or a local high school


Join a local band





Good luck reaching out to others. Happy Meetings!



Being a loner is no fun. Here's what you do. Move to a place like Pigeon Forge where there is a theme park, water park and so amny things to do. Or move to Bushc Gardens or somewhere there is a theme park. Or move to Kaspell Montana where there is winter activities. Being in a place where there are lots of people is the best way to not be a loner. Because if you go to bars a person can be alone in a bar full of people. Because you are used to being alone it is easier than being with people. So move to a place where there are lots of people having fun. I know I've been a loner for 20 years. Loners let people walk all over them and the kind of people are scum. People Like William Jeffrey Fitzhugh, Wally P. Taylor III and Fred francis Marine. I allowed these scum bag no working diseased pieces of **** to walk all over me.
I just joined this website about 2 minutes ago haha and I saw your question. Now, I have to say social pressure can be a big thing these days if you let it get to you. People try to conform to be like the next person and it's all a big mess, no one seems to be themselves anymore. There are a lot of ungeniune people out there which is sad. I feel sorry for you in your situation, I feel like I want to be your friend. But I really think you need to not go along with the crowd. Being honest is the best way. I know it sounds silly, but do whatever you want to do whether it be reading, maybe joining a book club, it may be dancing, do dance classes. Making new friends is difficult for anyone in this world, but if you desire true friendships, just be honest with the world. Tell THEM what you enjoy and people then have an interest in you and what your personality is. It is a two way street. If you listen to other people's interests, you get nowhere, if you keep talking about your own, you get nowhere. Just CREATE a friendship and an interest in one another. Please don't be one of those desperate people that wants to be friends with just anyone, they just end up with ungenuine people in their lives and the friendships aren't real and meaningful. But I have created so many genuine loyal friendships, by just doing what I want to do. It really is the best thing. Just be yourself. Be interested in others and people will find you interesting. Don't do things you don't enjoy just because you want friends, do things you love and enjoy. People really see this. I hope that helps :)
Which Country?


Most of the friends I've made over the past ten years are through a boating association (I bought a little boat).


Our local library was hosting Genealogy courses to which I went - made friends there.


An ';arty'; friend decided to give lessons to boost her income after her husband died - I went along as a ';rent-a-crowd'; and made another friend in the class.


There are numerous local branch Charitable Organisations who are desperate for volunteers; Give some time and make a friend or two.


Just a few ideas.
I know what you mean! It's difficult, isn't it? I used to work in a bank and was friends with my colleagues. I left four years ago and am self-employed as a musician, so I see no-one apart from two or three former colleagues, and that is not often.





I suppose you could go to a community centre or find a hobby which would bring you closer to people. I wish you the best of luck!
start going out more join clubs and groups and stuff like that because its easier to make friends with people you have something in common with. and also when you make friends with someone ask them for there addy or number to keep in touch. soon you'll be making lot's of friends ;)
try myspace, you can get to know ppl on there with similar interests as you and eventually meet up
Believe in yourself and have fun. Be sensitive to how others feel and be considerate, people appreciate that. Good luck and all the best.
I could do with some help there too.
join a church group or something similiar ?
It is simple - SMILE.
this is a good place to start
i wish i know the anser myself
I agree with AZ1011...smile...