I need all the advice I can get..please read further?

am 24 years old Ive been with this guy since I was 19, we have a little boy together who's about 2. I just found out Im pregnant again. Mike( the boyfriend) has always hated michigan. hates the cold hates the people ( whatever that means) and hates the job rate.Anyway Im about 12 weeks pregnant and he wants to up and move to Florida and visit his dad hes never seen and get the hell out of michigan. I dont ..Ive always lived here it doesnt bother me and all my family and friends are here. H e cant watch our son because he gets too irritated with him after like an hour so he cant possibly watch him all day while I go to a job. and I dont see us making it there without two working. He says part of the reason hes the way he is is because he never had a dad ( bad temper ..)that if I take him away from our son that he'll end up the same way. and that he'll hate me for it the way he hates his mom.Now Im pregnant , so thats two kids to hate me for it. So what should I do ?I'll take any adviceI need all the advice I can get..please read further?
You have some tough choices. One, I was a single mother of two for a time and while difficult, it can be done and is done everyday in America. Your son will not by definate end up with a bad temper if you leave the father. With communication and active parenting by you that can change. I just wanted to give a quick answer right now. I'll add more later when I am not so distracted by my own 4 children. They just got home from school. I say in a nut shell you need to do what is best for you and your children. If that means staying where you are and leaving your bf then do it. I'll add more, I promise.I need all the advice I can get..please read further?
hi girl srry 4 wats happening to u i think 4 my advice u should stay in michigan because that where all ur friends and family live and if u move to florrdia u probably have to get new friends and never probably see ur family again. so i would stay in michigan where ur peoples is!
Either compromise or move on. He should care more about you than not likeing cold weather. Getting irritated with your son after a scant hour isent a good sign either. Your kids wouldnt hate you for taking them away, possibly the'd be resentfull as teenagers, but as adults they'd understand. Look to family or friends for help. 24 is not to old to ask parents for help. I hope things turn out well.
Well...i think that you should ask you r boyfriend to stay until you have your little baby, then ask...beg your parents to help take care of the kids for awhile while you go with your bf to Florida until he finds his father then head home to take care of the children. Maybe he is tired of being around ';People he hates'; then go every once and a while back to Florida. If he has a bad temper...be careful not to make him too mad...or course. Yea..i know my advice really sucks...sorry. I really wish i could help you better!!


Best of luck to you and your children.
You need to make the decision yourself. You are the pregnant one here and you are the one who needs to be comfortable and situated. You seem very mature and able with or without your boyfriend. You both need to stick it out and ask friends and family for help financially or taking care of your children. I'm sure they will help.
It really sounds like your boyfriend could use some serious counseling. Anger issues, threatening to leave you. But, then again, it sounds like you could both use some counseling. He seems to have some serious issues that he is dragging you into and exporting to you, and those definitely need some resolution. He is making you out to be the bad guy when it is really he who does not have his act together. He acts as if he has more responsibility to find self fulfillment (whether it be by finding his father or expressing his anger at his kid(s)) rather than be a responsible father himself and a decent human being.





All that said, I do not imply anything in my previous words to answer the question of moving to Florida or not. You two have a lot of issues to work out before you get that far.





PS If he really loves you, he will marry you. Love is not an emotion that makes us feel all warm and fuzzy (I know, I have been married for 6 years), it is a commitment to stand by someone when things are really difficult and totally stink, whether or not we are happy or find it fulfilling.





God bless you in Christ. I am praying for you.