I need All the advice I can get..really?

am 24 years old Ive been with this guy since I was 19, we have a little boy together who's about 2. I just found out Im pregnant again. Mike( the boyfriend) has always hated michigan. hates the cold hates the people ( whatever that means) and hates the job rate.Anyway Im about 12 weeks pregnant and he wants to up and move to Florida and visit his dad hes never seen and get the hell out of michigan. I dont ..Ive always lived here it doesnt bother me and all my family and friends are here. H e cant watch our son because he gets too irritated with him after like an hour so he cant possibly watch him all day while I go to a job. and I dont see us making it there without two working. He says part of the reason hes the way he is is because he never had a dad ( bad temper ..)that if I take him away from our son that he'll end up the same way. and that he'll hate me for it the way he hates his mom.Now Im pregnant , so thats two kids to hate me for it. So what should I do ?I'll take any adviceI need All the advice I can get..really?
I have been in your shoes. The father of my son didn't like Chicago anymore for the same reasons... weather, people, etc. One day he decided he wanted to move to Arizona. We didn't know anyone there, didn't know what to expect. Since I thought we'd eventually get married, I moved 2000 miles away from any family and friends. The job market sucked in AZ, we both had to work to make ends meet. I worked days, he worked nights so we didn't have to put our son in daycare. It was really hard. To make a long story short, things didn't work out and I wound up moving back to Chicago without him. A year later he moved back too. I'm not saying that this will be the case with you and your boyfriend, but seriously thing about it before you just pick up and leave. I lost all my friends and my family disowned me when I left (gory details have been left out!). Don't let him brainwash you into thinking your son (and baby on the way) is going to end up the same way he did. I constantly have to hear that from my son's dad. If he wants to leave, I say let him go. You aren't taking the kids away from HIM, HE wants to leave. If you have a good relationship with your family and have close friends, they will help you along the way. I know it is hard being a single parent, but when it comes to your children you will do what it takes to make them happy and there are always people willing to help. I have been there, still there actually LOL. It will all come together; in this situation, listen to your head, not your heart.I need All the advice I can get..really?
At no point in all of that did you say you loved him. Maybe you should consider just leaving his sorry a**; your kids will NOT hate you for it. I was glad my mom finally left my dad. Do you want your kids to be exposed to that bad temper all the time? Or would you rather raise them in a peaceful environment? There are hundreds of programs that can help you with finding employment, housing, day care, food money (WIC) etc. There are also hundreds of guys out there who don't have bad tempers and probably enjoy living where you are. Free yourself up to meet some of them by dumping this guy.
Come to Florida, we'll hang out %26amp; find you a guy that's the complete package.
i have been EXACTLY where you are now. I would suggest staying with your family and friends. HONESTLY! I went through that and he took me to where I am now and I hate it here. We have a child and he is now trying to get custody. Keep yourself around family girl...ok? I am wihtout anyone! No family and NO friends and guys love it when they can take your life from you in one quick swoop. So stand firm and please keep the babies safe and don't go somewhere on a limb like to his dad's just because he wants to. You will regret it trust me. Take care and I hope this helps. PEACE~
Tell him that he should go to Florida to visit his dad, and to check if thate is a house near his dad for you guys to move in... when he leaves GET A RESTREINING ORDER AND MOVE WHITH FAMILY MEMBERS!!! GO BACK TO SCHOOL AND GET A BETTER JOB. Your kids (and you) will have peace at home, and maybe HE will stay with daddy in Florida.
First, I must say that you boyfriend can't blame his issues on the fact that he didn't have a dad. People can choose to change things about themselves and if he knows he has issues why doesn't he do something to better himself and work them out? I don't think it's fair for him to say that your son will end up the same way. I think it's his way of trying to control you so you'll stay will him. I grew up without ever meeting my 'real' dad. Yes, I had some anger when I was younger but then I realized that was not the person I wanted to be and took steps to change it. You sound like a better parent than Mike had, so I seriously doubt your kids will end up hating you. It's how you nurture and care for your kids that forms them and their opinions on life (the majority of the time). It sounds to be that he's just a glass-is-half-empty type of person that is unhappy with himself so therefore he will always think he's been cheated and deserves something more.





On to the moving issue. You are exactly right in thinking it will take 2 incomes to survive there. I have friends %26amp; family (and will hopefully be moving myself next year from KY!) and it is definitely a more expensive place to live. Also, you don't want to leave this person alone with your son if he starts getting aggravated, etc, quickly because your son will think this is the way normal people behave and start to pick up the same habits. If you don't want to go, I wouldn't. Since you are pregnant, you will definitely need the love %26amp; support of family and friends. If you move to Florida (when you don't want to) you will resent the fact that he 'made' you move away from everyone else you care about and this will be compounded by the emotional roller coaster of pregnancy. I think it's his way of getting you more under his control. There's nothing wrong with getting to know a parent, but why just up and move across the country for a relationship that has no guarantee on working out? I say put your foot down and tell him that you aren't going and explain to him the reasons why. If he still wants to go, it sounds to me like you're better off without him anyway! You're still young and life's too short to be stuck with someone who doesn't want the same things as you and is making you more unhappy than happy. Good Luck with your decision!
why aint yall married already? have you actually set down and talked to him about? i say stay with your family and friends. instead of movieing to florida yall just go visit.
you may have to get away now if you are going to go somewere you do not like it will be hell.
While I would encourage him to meet his father. It sounds more like he is running from problems. Right now you need all the support you can get. I would advise staying where you are. You two really need to sit down and talk about it. Tell him why you feel the way you do and encourage him to do the same. By the way having a bad temper has nothing to do with not having a father as a role model.