Tell them that God is able to do all things. Tell them to pray, seek, and trust in God more. I have been praying and asking God to help strengthen my marriage, and it has worked wonders!! My husband and I have been getting along SO much better lately and I give all the glory to God!!My friend wants to get a divorce. Need christian advice!?
Again, it's best to mind your own damn business. How would you like it if someone tried to meddle in your personal affairs?
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That's a great idea for your friend to see fireproof. I think he should also see a spirit-filled counselor, maybe a Pentecostal pastor. I hope his wife will see the movie too and be willing to see a counselor but if she is not saved, then this makes for more of a problem, but if she would be willing to see the counselor, then she might accept Christ into her life.
He needs to stop and really think about what he wants in life, and how unhappy he is in his marriage. If she wants the divorce also, it is probably best that they do divorce so that they can each find people that will make them happy. Staying with someone and being miserable does no good for anyone.
I don't know that you can make a difference but just tell him what the bible says on the subject.
ask him if he would pray about it before he makes a decision he might regret, and wait for an answer.
you didn't say if his wife is a christian.
if shes not then if she wants to leave he is allowed to let her,but if she wants to stay then he is supposed to let her stay.
if she is a christian also then tell him maybe they can get some sound christian counseling,and lots of prayer.
prayer works because God does like divorce so he will help if they will just listen.
most of all pray for them yourself,that is the best thing you can do.
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I also watched Fireproof while that was a good movie we must keep in mind God will not force any one to do anything, and he may be praying for there marriage to be reconciled if that is not what she wants then all he can do it trust God no matter what happens.The best you can do is love him right through all of this since the outcome is not in your hands and encourage your friend to keep believing in God for his love for him will Never change!
I can't give advice on this one primarily because I don't know either nor do I know their situation.
Suggestion for a book Love Notes. It is the book used in Fireproof, but never the less I didn't think the movie was all that great. But I hear the book is effective.
When i became a Christian, that very weekend my wife (pagan) wanted a divorce. for three years I tried to reconcile but to no avail, to get back with me was to have Jesus as well. We divorced and I met a Christian woman and through God's grace went on to become a pastor.
bottom line, Sometimes the thing we think is best is not in God's plan.
If both partners want a divorce I doubt there is anything to rescue. Sorry.
You might learn that the bible belt has a higher divorce rate than the northeast. Therefore religion and the stability of marriage do not appear to go together.
You can encourage for him to watch the movie, and it was great. But, don't give other advice if your friend doesn't ask for it.
Do what you need to do in life to be happy, if divorce is the road you need to take, go with G-d.
Jesus said the only time a person can divorce the wife is if she commits adultery.
Otherwise, it is a sin to divorce her.
I suggest you mind your own damn business.
It's better for two people to get divorced than to stay in a loveless marriage.
Let him know how you feel about it, and then do...NOTHING. It's his life, dear. He's got to figure it out for himself. All he needs right now is a friend.
Divorce is permitted in Christianity
Stay out of his business.
he gave his word to a woman, our words are things that we truely own, ......... if we dont respect that ...........
The best thing you and your friend can do is to go to the Word of God for the answer to your question. Paul deals with this very question in First Corinthians Chapter 7 verses 10 through 17 says:
';10. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11. But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
12. But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
16. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
17. But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.';
The answer is if your friends wife is an unbeliever, then he is to remain married to her as long as she wishes to remain with him. If she leaves him, then he is to let her because he is no longer married to her and free to marry again - as long as it is in the Lord. If she is a believer as well, then the two can only divorce for adultery (see Matthew 19:1-12), and if she does divorce or seperate from him for any other reason, then she is to remain unmarried unless she returns to him.
This may seem harsh, but this is what the Word of God says.
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